I have a problem. Well a hypothetical one anyway. I get to know my characters. I get inside their heads. I can answer pretty much any question as that character. This is supposed to be good, right? *nods* BUT what if there's a problem with the character or the way his or her actions play out in the book? What if your critiquers say "No! I don't like her enough. She can't do that." or something of the like?
And suppose I know her so well that I'm convinced it wouldn't be true to her character to do what's necessary to make her likable or do what should be done plot wise.
What happens then? Do we squeeze a square peg in a round hole?
Here's the answer that seems obvious to me though I know it's hard to swallow:
CHANGE THE CHARACTER. Is it a fundamental change? Sounds like it. But you know what? Maybe they weren't the right character for the situation. Maybe you need someone else.
I've said before that you need the absolute wrong character for the situation. The one who will have the most difficulty therefore creating the most tension and conflict. It sounds like in the above situation I haven't found that perfectly wrong person yet.
And it may hurt. It's worse than killing your darling words. It's a person you've gotten to know. If it helps, rename the character. Change the physical description. Anything to differentiate between the two. BUT do what's right for the book.
The character has to be true to herself, but if that truth doesn't work, change the truth.
Just a note - because of the holiday I will probably be late visiting you guys, but know that I WILL catch up and read every single one carefully.